Family is the...

 

 "Family is the house, the home, the children, the woman, the wife and the family friend - the man, the husband. The woman creates the family. The woman creates the atmosphere of a family, the space of a family. And the man helps her.
I am often asked to what extent the harmony in a family depends on the woman. This question seems absurd to me. The family is in fact the woman herself. And the man, since ancient times, has hunted, has provided food for the family, has looked after the family, in other words, the woman and the children.
The more a woman creates an atmosphere of warmth, comfort, protection, care, the more harmonious a family is. The more a woman feels unity with her husband, the more harmonious a family is. But if a woman marks the boundaries of her own territory, material and spiritual, and defends it to the outside, if she quarrels violently with her husband, then the family is destroyed.
Female energy is stronger than male energy, since the woman is predestined to give birth to children and for this reason, from the very beginning, energy is given to her in abundance. The man thinks strategically, which leads to a huge consumption of nerves, so he simply may not have enough energy for the permanent, routine worries of family life. But a woman needs to focus her efforts on raising a family and caring for children.

 A family has two levels - external and internal. The external is about protection, getting food, acquiring money, dealing with serious strategic issues that the man has always dealt with. And the woman takes care of the family's internal problems. Women's tasks are bringing up children, cooking, creating a domestic, comfortable atmosphere, arranging furniture, washing dishes, cleaning the house, etc. This is a natural division of labour.
Family life is about knowledge and development. The first task of the family is development, the second - the birth and upbringing of children. To develop, a man must have flexibility, readiness to change. Who is endowed with flexibility? Women. Lao Tzu wrote: "When we are born, we are soft, flexible; when we die, we are strong and strong.... " Who is soft and flexible? Woman. Who is hard and strong? The man.
Who has a greater tendency to grow? Who has a greater capacity to adapt to new conditions? The woman. The man can think strategically, and the woman - to change, feel new and adapt. It is the woman who has always taken care of the family and its maintenance and development. And when the woman tries to be like the man and behave like a man, then the family is destroyed...."
S.N. Lazarev
Excerpt from the book "Secrets of family happiness"
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